Just like you want to avoid profiles that look really fake, women want to do the same. The more real and normal you seem on your profile, the more women will respond to your message, or will even message you!
The reason you pay for adult dating sites is because that weeds out a lot of the bad, and it also helps pay for admins/moderators who audit and remove fake profiles etc
Once you are happy with how your profile looks, you are ready to start contacting and messaging women. Here are some important rules to consider:
Free sites – It may sound odd, but you want to AVOID THE FREE DATING SITES!
* You want to make them WANT to read your message! Pay a lot of attention to the subject line, because that is the first thing they will see. If they don’t like the subject they will just delete the message. The subject line needs to do one of three things: * Make them laugh or giggle * Make them curious about what you have to offer * Be compelling
As you can see, on of these will definitely not work, while the other one is kinda silly, and rouses curiousity.
As odd as it sounds, you should try and keep track of who you have contacted, as well as some information about them and information on if and when you have actually met them. The best way to do this is to keep some sort of spreadsheet of all of the girls with some info (as odd as this sounds, it is important):
In the sheet you want to have at least the following: * Name – The full name of the girl you messaged * Date – The date and time you contacted her * Replied – Has she replied to your message? * Phone Number – If you have her number, keep it here. * Hooked up – Did you manage to meet with her and/or hook up? Is there potential to keep hooking up? * Notes – What are some of the things you have talked about? What are her interests? This one is IMPORTANT! You don’t want to get your girls confused.
Craigslist – The fact that CL is free is a bad sign. It’s also dangerous to use for online dating, especially casual sex. Just look at it this way. how many people will want to pay hundreds of dollars to maintain a fake profile? Social Media sites like Facebook – If you don’t believe this one. just watch “Catfish.” Facebook is full of fake/stolen profiles. Again, you do not want to take chances on free sites or sites not intended for adult dating.
There are a few things you can do to tell if an account is fake. This will help save you time and will also help you avoid scammers and escort services posing as dating sites. Remember, though, that the top paid sites get screened constantly by support teams to prevent fake accounts, so they are very few and far between (again..this is why you are investing in a paid dating site to begin with!). Here are some tips to figuring out profiles:
* Do they show their face? If they don’t show their face there is a high chance that they are escort who do not want to be identified. * Are all of their photos sexual? Just like you added some normal photos you would expect them to as well. It’s harder to fake a profile with an abundance of different pictures. * Is she wearing the exact same clothes in all of the photos? If it looks like a photo shoot, then it is probably a fake account. * Is their English REALLY bad? Having bad english isn’t necessarily a bad thing but you need to be careful because you could be talking to a man in Nigeria. * Did they contact you with a very forward message? If they are messaging you and they are being very direct, impatient to meet up, and forward, you can probably assume that the account is fake. Remember that even though these women on the sites are also looking for casual sex, they are still going to be reserved because they are probably getting a lot of messages from a lot of men. If they sound desperate, then something is wrong. * Do they not own a phone or camera? It’s the 21st century. pretty much everyone has a camera phone. If they don’t that’s because they either can’t talk to you because they are not who they say they are.